What advantages can mediation offer during a divorce?
Divorce can be traumatic for couples and families. Most people are stressed, frustrated, angry, upset, sad, or all of the above. Even under the best of circumstances, there are a lot of details to address.
Mediation is focused on positive communication and solutions. Making a commitment to the process can help people remember the bigger picture. This might mean keeping the focus on the best interests of the children and paving the way for peaceful co-parenting, or minimizing hostility in order to preserve relationships with former in-laws and mutual friends. One study found that mediation had a more positive effect on relationships than litigation did, and that it increased parents’ understanding of their children’s needs.
My friends and family are encouraging me to “sue the pants off” my ex.
People going through a divorce can feel bombarded with suggestions. Loved ones sometimes encourage fighting because they are hurt and angry on your behalf and want to make sure your interests are protected. You may also have heard nightmare stories of other divorces. It’s important to explore your options and find the resolution strategy that works for you.
What divorce-related issues can be discussed in mediation?
Ending a marriage can be overwhelming and many people aren’t sure where to start the process. Mediation can help you sort out:
- Practical and financial aspects of dividing the household
- How to find an equitable division of debts and assets
- How to reach resolution on issues that are preventing you from moving forward
What sorts of parenting issues can be addressed in mediation?
- New or revised custody arrangements that ease transitions and maximize quality time with children
- Financial planning for children’s current needs (e.g., school tuition, summer camp, extracurricular activities)
- Financial planning for children’s future needs (e.g., college, weddings)